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I Want It NOW

Demanding Teens and Children

It seems like children and especially teens have become very entitled these days. They seem to want everything and they want it immediately. In the world today it seems like everything happens in real time, this may be contributing to the “I want it now” syndrome. Another factor may be parents in an effort to accomplish everything they need to, are giving their kids too much. Parents that work are trying to do what it takes to keep their employment and pay for the families needs. Sometimes they just don’t have time to spend with their children or teen. The guilt associated with this lack of bonding time leads them to want to give the child something else. The little one raised with receiving a new toy every time the parents goes to the store will soon think that every trip to the store means he or she will get something new. Parents are not trying to spoil their children, they are just trying to make them happy. The problem is that giving them something every time they go to the store will not end well. As the children grow into teens the things (toys) they want begin to cost a lot more. Soon, instead of being able to buy the child off with $5-$10 the parent is looking at a major investment.

No Substitute for Your Time

Parents that learn that there is really no substitute for their time, never try to buy the child something to replace their time. It is difficult, but it is imperative that parents spend as much time as possible with their children. When parents are working 10-12 hours a day this may seem impossible. Spending time with children when both parents and children are busy requires a lot of coordination and creativity. The alternative is the potential of the children and teen getting into trouble and eventually needing placement out side of the home. There are plenty of boarding schools for troubled teens, boot camps for teens, and other types of placement for teens that get into trouble. This doesn’t mean that just because teens and children are left a lone that they end up in trouble. It would be safe to say that teens that are supervised may have a reduced chance of ending up in trouble.

Make it Work

The reality is that many families are working long hours and making time to spend with their children and teens. As mentioned before this can only happen with creativity and some careful planning. Parents will definitely need to be organized to make this happen. Time with children will need to be scheduled like an event at work would be. Some parents make time to see their children during lunch. When time after work is at a premium, lunch may be the only time a busy parent can break way. It is also very important and should be a priority for every parent to schedule their time to allow them to watch their children perform. The performance may be a play at school, or participation in a sports league of some type. This gives the parents something to support their child in as well as something to praise them for. Parents should always be on the lookout for positive things their children do to praise them for.

 

Teens with eating disorders – Bulimia

Bulimia is a type of eating disorder. One of the main symptoms of bulimia is the person will eat a very large amount of food in a short period of time. Then they will do something to get rid of the food they just ate, this is called purging. This could include vomiting, exercising too much or using medicines such as laxatives to rid them of the food. Those with bulimia may binge because food makes them feel good and give them comfort, but eating large portions makes them feel like they are losing control. After a person will binge, they feel ashamed, guilty and afraid of gaining weight.

This is what causes them to purge. If some one with bulimia does not receive treatment, it can lead to serious, long term health problems. When they vomit, the acid in the mouth can cause tooth decay, gum disease and loss of tooth enamel. Also any kind of purging can lead to bone thinning, kidney damage, heart problems or even death. Will power alone can not over come bulimia. A person with bulimia needs treatment, this can help them to feel better and live a healthier life.

Although we may not know what causes eating disorders such as bulimia, they may be a mix of family history, social factors, and personality traits. A person may be more likely to have bulimia if other people in their family are obese or have an eating disorder. You may have a job or do a sport that puts stress on the body size, such as modeling or gymnastics. If you are a person that feels that you are never good enough and have to perfect all the time and worries a lot, you may be a candidate for bulimia. Also if you are dealing with a lot of stress in your live, such as a divorce, moving to a new town or school, or lost a loved one.

Bulimia usually starts in the teen years. It is mostly female who have bulimia, but some boys and men have it too. When it starts in the teen years, it can usually last into adulthood and therefore is a long term disorder. A person who has bulimia will binge on a regular basis and eat large amounts of food in a short period of time. When they are binging they feel out of control and feel unable to stop eating. This will them make them feel guilty and they will purge to get rid of the food and avoid weight gain.

As with all eating disorders, there is treatment available. There are some teen boarding schools that can help teens with this disorder. Parents will find relief when they choose to send their teen with bulimia to a teen boarding school. They will not only be safe, but the environment at these teen boarding schools will be such that the teen can receive the help they will need to manage their disorder. Take time to research the teen boarding schools available to help your teen with bulimia.

Boarding schools can help stressed teens

Stress is what a person feels when you have to handle more than you are used to. Your body will respond to stress as though you are in danger. The heart will speed up and make you breathe faster and give you a burst of energy. Some stress is good and can be useful, such as helping you win a race. If stress happens often and last too long, it can have bad effects. This can cause headaches, an upset stomach, back pain, or trouble sleeping. Stress can also affect the immune system and make it harder to fight off a disease. You can become moody, tense, or depressed. Stress can also make it so your relationships can suffer, and you may not do well at work or school.

There are ways that you can learn to manage your stress. First learn what is causing the stress in your life and look for ways to reduce the amount of stress. Stress may be a fact of life for most people. You may not be able to get rid of the stress, but look for ways to lower it. This could include learning to better manage your time. If you have a schedule, you may be able to get the most important thing done first. Also find better way to cope.

Take a good look at your self to see what has worked in the past and what you feel might work better. Also, take good care of yourself, get plenty of rest, eat well, don’t smoke, limit the amount of alcohol you drink. When you find yourself starting to worry about things try to stop your thoughts. Try to learn to say no and let go of thing you can not change. You can always talk to your family or friends and they can help you mange your stress better. When you talk about your needs and concerns it can help negative feelings go away. In some situations, the stress in your life can be too much and just talking to family or friends does not help. It may be best to talk to a counselor instead.

Things you can do to relieve stress and that work well for most people are: exercise, regular exercise is a great way to reduce stress, it can just be a simple short walk. Writing about the things that are bothering you may help you relieve some stress. Try talking, laughing, crying or expressing some anger with someone you trust. Do something you enjoy doing that you haven’t done for some time. Do something for some one else, this helps you to forget what is bothering you. Learn ways to relax your body, this could be to learn some breathing exercises, muscle relaxation exercises, massage, aromatherapy, yoga. You can also learn some self-hypnosis techniques or meditation. Laugh and laugh again. You have heard the old saying that laughter is the best medicine, well it is certainly true.

Many teenager’s have stress in their life. With peer pressure from class mates, to thinking they aren’t good looking or fat. Teen’s sometimes put too much pressure on them selves to fit in, get good grades, and they just feel they aren’t good enough. Such feelings can lead to behavior’s that aren’t typical for them. When a teen has let stress take over, they may thing that turning to drugs is the solution. Or they may turn to other destructive behaviors. Teen boarding schools can help a teen that have made some wrong choices. There are teen boarding schools that are available, it is nice to know that a parent can get the help their teen needs. The teen boarding schools provide a safe environment for a teen to learn to manage their stress and lead a productive life.

Boarding school for depressed teens

Boarding school for depressed teens

There is a variety of teen boarding schools that have students who are dealing with depression. There also is a variety of reasons that a parent would have to consider sending their child to a teen boarding school. Because there are so many teen boarding schools to choose from, a parent needs to do as much research as possible.

Depression is more than just feeling sad. Depression is a medical illness and not a sign that someone is weak. Sometime’s a parent may wonder if their teen is suffering from depression because they seem irritable or unhappy. When you add hormone havoc to the other changes in a teen’s life, it can make sense why the teen would have moods swings. Yet findings show that there are teen’s that experience depression and the problems associated with it. It is good to know that depression can be treated, and if your teen is unhappy for more than two weeks and he or she displays other symptoms of depression, such as they may have a noticeable change in their thinking and behavior. They may also have no motivation and could become withdrawn, closing their bedroom door after school and staying in their rooms for hours.

Signs of Depression

Some other signs and symptoms to look for in your teen would be as follows: they may exhibit criminal behavior such as DUI or shoplifting, apathy, complaining of pain in stomach or the lower back or fatigue, they can not concentrate, difficulty making decisions, they feel guilty over everything, irresponsible behavior such as skipping school or being late for classes, they will have sudden drops in their grades or forgetting they had an obligation, they either loose interest in food or they may become a compulsive overeater resulting in rapid weight loss or gain, they may have memory loss, preoccupation with death and dying, rebellious behavior, they have anxiety, or they feel sad and have feeling of hopelessness. A depressed teen will stay awake at night and sleep during the day. They could withdraw from their friends and use alcohol or drugs and have promiscuous sex.

The teenage years are a difficult time and if a teen is depressed they can develop feelings of worthlessness and inadequacy over their grades. A teen’s family life or school performance, their social status with their peers, and sexual orientation can each have a major effect on how a teen feels. When the family or friends and the things that the teen usually enjoys can’t help them to feel better and they are sad and feel isolated, there is a good chance that he or she has teen depression.