Many parents today are unhappy with the lack of religious principles being taught is schools today. This has lead many parents across the country to enroll their children and teens into religious schools most of which are based on Christianity. In the world today many Christians are persecuted for their belief in God. Teen’s that have the courage that stand up for what they believe in are many times ridiculed in a school setting. Most schools are not even allowed to talk about the Creation of the world, let alone teach students about it. This may be in part to NEA’s National Education Association’s affiliation with a Humanistic view of religion. The views are somewhat camouflaged under the phrase “separation of Church and State”. But Christians that have been persecuted as long as they have been in existence know the origin of the Atheistic undertones of the message. There are many today that have drawn a parallel line from the time that prayer was taken out of the classroom and the time when the country began a steady decline.
Benefits Of A Christian School
A Christian school can be a breathe of fresh air for people interested in their children being taught the truth about God and religion. Most Christian schools are founded on the Bible and it’s virtues. Many parents today are upset that more ethical values are not taught in in the education system today. In a Christian School or a Christian Boarding School, students will be taught the importance of honesty, integrity among other basic moral principles. This is not to say that there are not teachers and school administrators that are good religious people. Neither is it meant to say that all public schools are bad. Basically this article it to help parents understand that there are alternatives for them that are founded on Christian values. Parents should investigate any boarding school or private school to assure the beliefs are congruent with their own family values. Just because a school says it is Christian does not mean everything they do will or say will be in line with the core beliefs of the family. Nor does it mean that everything that is done there will be positive. It is pretty safe to say that a Christian School will be more in line with family values that a traditional public school.
In conclusion parents should understand that not all public schools are evil and not all Christian Schools are perfect. Parents should always investigate any placement option for their teen prior to sending them there. The obvious advantage of the Christian school is the implementation of the tradition Christian value system that has long been gone from the public school system. It is difficult enough for a teen to make good decisions in the world today. It is even more difficult without the influence of religion in their lives. If the family supports a religious life style and desires their child to be in an environment where the same values are adhered to, a Christian School will probably be the best option. The best example of this are the Ten Commandments. Imagine the benefits of a school where the principles and values of the Ten Commandments are taught.
A phrase that Dr. Phil has recently made popular asks people that are in a predicament “so how is that working for you”? It can be humorous when asked to those discussing their problems on television. It may be a good question for parents struggling with a defiant teen to consider. The struggle with an out of control teen can be very traumatic and disruptive for the entire family. Most parents are really not sure how to proceed, where to turn, or what to do. The common denominator among parents of troubled teens is a lack of knowledge of what to do next. Most of these parent’s could also be asked the same question Dr. Phil asks. How are the parenting techniques some parents using working for them? Most people have heard the definition of insanity defined by by Albert Einstein as continuing to do the same things over and over expecting different results. If you keep doing the same things you always do you will keep getting the results you have always gotten. It is obvious that something needs to change, the question is what?
Defiant Teen Options
Once parents realize something needs to change they have several avenues they can explore. A common first step is taking the teen to a therapist. This is usually futile as the therapist is trained to help people that want to get helped. The majority of teens in this particular situation think the only problem they have is their parents. As educated and experienced as the therapist might be they will agree they can’t help someone unless they want to be helped. The human mind is a very complex thing, and there is really no way into it without the permission of the person that is in control of it.
Another common tactic for parents is attempting to control the teen with restriction’s like grounding, limitations on friends, or cutting communication lines with the outside world. The problem is the parents may be the ones that suffer the most these types of tactics. Another down side to these methods is that many teens will find a way around them. Sneaking out at night, failing to go to school, and continued association with negative friends will usually continue to take place.
Extreme Action May Be Required
When everything else fails parents may need to consider some “out of the box” techniques or actions. There are troubled teen boarding schools that specialize in dealing with teens like we are talking about. They can be a great option for a teen that does not respond to any other type of help parents have tried. Defiant teen programs are scattered across the country and range in price, success, and how they approach the negative youth. Some are patterned after the military using an in your face technique combined with peer pressure to get the teen to do as they are asked. Another method is to combine a highly structured daily schedule with a therapeutic component. As mentioned previously however, the therapy will only be helpful if the teen decides to take advantage of it. Some of the programs also add a Christian component to their approach. These types of placement are known as Christian Boarding Schools or Christian Boot Camps. The religious aspect of the program can be very beneficial especially if the teen has had a religious upbringing. It can also chase a teen away from God if it is forced on them.