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Is There Help For My Troubled 18 Year Old?

Is There Help for My Troubled 18 Year Old?

My 18 year old is acting out and it doesn’t look like he is going to graduate from high school. Parents call many times looking for help for older teens 17, or even 18 years of age. The problem with a teen that is 17 almost 18, is the fact that they know they can not be forced to stay past their 18th birthday. This means that for an 18 year old they must be “willing” to stay in any program or boot camp they are enrolled in. The best way to help a defiant teen or an at risk youth, is to get help as early as possible. The older the teen gets the more difficult and less effective a program might be.

Summer School Drama

When we speak of summer school drama we are not referring to a drama class taken during the summer time. Summer school drama in this case, refers to the drama parents go through trying to get their teen to attend summer school. When teen’s do poorly in school during the regular school year many times they are asked to attend summer school to finish work they didn’t finish during the school. This is a difficult event for parents to enforce. The teen who probably hates school to begin with, is less than excited about the prospect of attending school during their summer vacation.

My Teen is Refusing to go to Summer School, Now What?

When a teen is being required to attend summer school to catch up with the remainder of their class in school they may refuse to go. This puts parents in the position of trying to figure out what to do with the teen. There are some programs, boot camps, and boarding schools that will accept a teen for a few months during the summer. These types of schools are residential, and they have much better luck getting the youngster caught up in school. This is because a boarding school or boot camp is in control of the teen 24-7, making it much more difficult for the teen to skip school and not do their assignments. If a parent decides to enroll a teen in a program for the summer, it is a good idea to keep the intended length of stay from the teen. This will make the program much more effective, and will usually produce much better results. If you teen is refusing to go to school give us a call we can help.

Teens That Are Doing Okay in School but Need Supervision for the Summer

Another category of teens, are those who are doing okay in school, but are defiant and headed for trouble. When both parents work it is difficult to keep an eye on their teen and give them the additional supervision they need. This can make a summer program in a boot camp or boarding school a great option. The teen will be supervised closely, they will be instructed on how to behave, and receive some type of substance abuse training. This is a great way to not only have the teen supervised, but have the teen get the additional help they need.

 

Boot Camps for Children

Types of Boot Camps

There are several types of boot camps referred to on the Internet. The first, and most common type of boot camp is the military boot camp associated with the United States Military. Each branch of the military has their own style and intensity level of boot camp. Another activity that is often referred to as a boot camp is the computer boot camp. In this context the idea is that a person will be able to learn a lot in a weekend, or how ever long the camp is scheduled for. The reason the experience is associated with the term boot camp seems to add a feeling of intensity to the experience. There are also fitness boot camps designed to give the participant a military style work out. There are also boot camps associated with some Juvenile Systems. Another type of boot camp is the troubled teen boot camp. Finally there are even some boot camps that will accept children younger than teens.

Boot Camps for Children

Boot Camps for Children under the age of 12 are relatively new and are limited in number. The boot camp experience seems a little extreme for a younger child. Some parents have reached their boiling point and are ready to send their child away from home. The distraught parent usually expresses that they have tried everything to help their child, and nothing is working. Some are desperate to make the move and actually have their child sent away from home. Frustrated parents will many times say, “I am done, I don’t care where he goes”. The parent that has reached this point is usually not interested in any type of self help program, they want someone to remove the problem and take the child from their home.

The question most people have is, “how can a parent be so willing to give their child away”? It is never a good idea to judge the person without understanding all of the life events they have experienced, and obtaining all of the facts. There are two sides to every story, and making a quick critical opinion of the parent is not a good idea. With nearly half of the marriages in the country ending in divorce, the discouraged parent is usually a single parent.

Single Parenting

The parent seeking help is usually a single mother that is trying to provide for her family, and possibly better herself by going to school. Children require a lot of time and energy, and there are only so many hours in a day. The single mother may be lonely and wanting the companionship of a man in her life. The child realizing that the limited amount of time he has been receiving is going to be reduced by the new boyfriend, begins to intensify his misbehavior. This has a tendency to drive the new boyfriend away or push him until he gives the single mother an ultimatum. The single mother may rationalize that the boy’s father is out having a good time and she is forced to take care of their child. The list of possible scenarios goes on and on, making a quick judgement of the parent impossible to make. That being said, it is ultimately the mother’s choice to have a baby. Agree or disagree, this decision was made when she had unprotected sex, prior to marriage. Once a child is born it is both the mother and father’s responsibility to provide and care for it the next 18 years. It is unfortunate that many father’s do not recognize and accept their responsibility. Parenting is very difficult even for parents that have a good marriage and are still together.

 

 

Teen Boot Camps – Teen Military Schools

TV Boot Camps

Several years ago there were multiple television shows portraying a situation where a spoiled brat would be confronted by a drill sergeant. The child would then be escorted to a boot camp, sometimes for a week and sometimes for a weekend. They camera crew would follow the child through the process watching the drill sergeant screaming in the youths face. It was very sensational, and entertaining to watch. The audience would view first hand the spoiled child screaming and even cursing at their parents. The parents were in total disarray not knowing how to deal with this type of problem. Out of frustration they would contact the television network to see if they would take their child to the boot camp.

Free Boot Camps

This may be where parents first heard about the possibility of a free boot camp for troubled youth. The television show was being paid by their sponsors which allowed them to perform the boot camp service for the at risk youth for no charge. The problem is that many parents are still searching for the every illusive free boot camp. To our knowledge there are not free boot camps. There has also been a drastic reduction in the number of boot camps across the country. This may be due in part to the abuse that has taken place at these types of boot camps. The old saying, “there is no such thing as a free lunch” seems to apply to there is no such thing as a free boot camp. Some states established boot camps to try to help at risk youth, but most have discontinued these programs to our knowledge.

Boot Camps for At Risk Youth

When parents are looking for help for an at risk youth, one thought that often comes to mind is that of a boot camp. Many parents that served in the military appreciate the difficult time they had in a military boot camp. They can visualize their child going through the same type of structure and discipline that they went through. The thought is good, but the difference is that their child is openly defiant to any type of authority. This defiance doesn’t bode well for life in a military setting. It can create a dangerous situation for the teen that attempts to refuse to follow orders. If the teen were willing to following the program the structure would be advantageous, but this is rarely the case. The teen that defies authority, will do better in a program that requires them to make choices.